To answer your question(s)--- I am doing well and taking one day at a time, after my beloved dog, Matisse's passing, on June 7th, of 2018. It's been a while since I've been on social media. Let me tell you, somewhere deep inside of me, emerges a Facebook-er who will diligently exercise self-discipline to use Facebook only for useful, positive as well as productive things. And yet, there are so many useful, positive as well as productive things that I've indulged myself in, since my social media absence. I have a life. I know how to have fun and take care of my priorities, other than sit and stare at my computer most of the day---- moping, bragging, running my mouth by over-sharing, spewing my anger or telling the world about my private life, just to get attention or approval, and worse, read posts from people bragging where they have been, or spew their drama to get some love and attention.---- I don't miss that one bit. Seriously. I know when to draw that line. In the past year of not being on Facebook, I admit to feeling myself again, and that familiar feeling was way BEFORE I decided to open an account there. I was always on the go. I was happy, and involved in conversations with family and friends, and, the best part of all, I don't get misunderstood. I don't get caught up in someone's war. I don't miss a meal, and trust me, I often do because I am busy typing up a storm, helping out someone in trouble. Now that is out in the open. As much as I would politely say I need to do what I am there to do in the first place, but I often feel so bad when someone strikes up a chat with me, asking for advise, ones who are in trouble. It's hard for me to ignore people in need. It is in my nature to help out. I am compassionate as a person. I cannot help it. But, next time, I need to put both my feet firmly on the ground and politely say that I need to go.
Being on Facebook, makes it feel like it is constantly comparing your life to everyone else's. People portray themselves on social media as they want to be seen, which is why you and I frequently see pictures of people's perfect relationships (as they want the world to see), perfect homes, perfect children, perfect hair and makeup, perfect vacation and so on. So, yeah, it's inevitable that you're going to compare yourself to these people, and wondering how and why their lives are so colorful, and yours is a hot mess. I say, users who view Facebook in this way, like say, an artist for example, often sized up their accomplishments against others, and produces envy that their accomplishments could not match up to what their friends posted. That leads to envy and depression for those who don't have such luck. The more time you spend on social media, the more depressed you'll feel while browsing anyone's 'colorful' page. But here's the thing my dear readers, if you ask me, I don't let it get to me. Seriously, there is no such thing as an easy way to creating art, without the errors, or frustrations.
Being on social media gave us more and more excuses to constantly be on our computers, or phones, from the time we wake up, and before we go to bed. The most deleterious activities appeared to be frequent awakenings from the device, especially checking these devices frequently while in bed. For heavy social media users, they leave their phone on, that way they don't miss a thing. If you ask me, why should I care? My health as well as my sleep are top priority. My sanity is far more important. Social media can be such a helpful tool in connecting and networking with people, but on the other hand, spending too much time buried in your phone or computer, and you risk feeling a disconnection with the real world. That's one of the reasons why I've been away for a while now. It's actually very refreshing, and I sleep better.
In my personal opinion, one of the worst things about social media is the petty drama, ones concerning between social media friends, or family members. I understand, that most people have the need to express their grief or frustrations, but there are personal stuff best kept within a private circle. The worse drama of all is when you are pulled into it. Another thing, we always run the risk of our statements (postings) being misconstrued when they're written. Also, it’s too easy for Facebook wars and Twitter drama to unfold because it’s so impersonal. You and I know that people get really brave online since they hide safely behind their computers or phones, but the brutal truth there is, they would never say or do such things in reality. Like say, when someone is trying to call out someone, without naming names, you do much more harm than good. Again, everyone you know will start chiming in with something to say, one thing leads to another, comments get nasty pretty quickly. Instead of allowing this to escalate, it's far better to either approach the matter through private message, if they are just virtual friends. OR deal with it offline, preferably face-to-face, if they are your real life family or closest friends.
When you break up/or go through a cooling off period with social media, you will realize that calling, talking, and having dates without social media interruption, is a great way to bond and connect with your significant other, family and closest friends. Okay, so there's this great conversation and feasting going on, and there you are click-clacking on your phone. It is annoying and a big turn-off.
In my very short encounter with social media, I am pretty impress with this realization. It is me who made that choice. I just need to know when and where is the right time to do it. And I do it when I am by myself. So, it's all up to you if you wish that, or continue to embrace that world. Heck, I am not saying that I should, or you should all quit social media cold turkey. I just feel that my social media habits are impinging my time at work, or with family, or doing things I enjoy like outdoor activities, and so, I finally snapped out of it and thought it might be time for a break. A long one. The next time I visit social media, I will have my limitations, and instead, stay productive and talk to the people around me.