Drama is a major soul-sucker. It's that special kind of drama when conflicts get blown way out of proportion, for no reason at all. We’d like to believe that petty social drama ended the day we leave high school. But sadly, this is not the case. This is truly a shame, because drama increases stress, ruins relationships, and it eats away at that one precious commodity none of us can afford to waste: time. Like say, it starts with those darn ‘assumptions’. Ahuh *nods*. The problem tend to increase exponentially with each additional person who is added to the communication chain. Loathe when that happens? Yes, I personally loathe that very much! It starts off with, let's say, for example, if W tells me that X told W, that Y heard Z say something cringe-worthy. Oh boy, chances are, that story you are hearing bears little resemblance to the actual truth. Each additional person 'alters' the story to some degree. This person, or group of people, may add in emotion of verbiage that wasn’t there before.
Okay, so, easier said than done, HOWEVER, here's what I have to say when things go awry--- "You don’t need to get in the last word", alright? You don’t need to “one up” the other person. And you certainly don’t need to make them pay for wronging you. Just let it go, and watch the drama flow away.
In this modern day and age, our social circle is 'supposed' to be a source of happiness, our 'support system'. Good friends, virtual, and in real-life, help prop you up when you’re down, help you celebrate your successes, mourn your losses with you, cheer you on and – ideally – help you pick up the pieces when you’ve screwed up. But toxic friends do exist. Oh trust me, it can be hard to identify toxic friends at times, especially if it’s a “friendship” of long standing. Some friendships can have a bit of antagonistic teasing to them, but true friends know where the line is and keep well behind it. Well, I am a rare friend and though I am not the perfect one, but I am 'that one' who you can come running to and feel downright comfortable and being yourself. You may normally be that happy, cheerful, sweet person, but when you’re around these toxic people you just... you know *shrugs shoulders*.... sadly deflate.
Hell. Having to constantly stay on your guard around them, and watching what you say in order to avoid giving them more ammo, just sucks all of your energy! So, my best advise to you (readers), and myself is --- You don’t have to explain or post (on social media), getting all highly emotional, VYING FOR ATTENTION. Wanting an audience. It's best to find the 'root', the person 'behind' it all, and do it privately. Trust me, I've been there. It's not worth it! It bites you right back in the ankle. By refusing to let other people stomp all over your self-worth is not up for public debate or open to discussion. It's useless. It escalates and it festers. By giving the drama the attention, it actually makes the person who started it all, happy, excited to see you miserable. They love their games. They love to push others to the edge. And you know what type of people who gets this kind of self-satisfaction? Bullies.
You and you alone get to decide where the line is and who gets to cross it. Do not justify. Do not debate. Do not reason. You don't owe those useless turds your precious time. Any explanations will quickly become a referendum on whether you have a right to tell them to stop. Real friends will understand when they’ve crossed a line. They’ll apologize and make a point to not cross it again in the future. But as scary and intimidating as it can be, ending the friendship (virtual or in real life) is worth it. Your self-esteem, your mental and emotional health is far more valuable than putting up with someone or a brain-dead group of toxic people who tries to undermine you at every turn.
Simply put here, being fun is a trait people generally appreciate in others. If you can be more fun they'll enjoy being around you more. I know, I don’t have a problem about it, since ‘gregarious’ is my to-go personality.